Monday, May 26, 2014

Hypnotism and Flying (a post by request)

So as many of you know, I have a terrible fear of flying.  Well actually it isn't really the flying that bothers me, it is the motion of the plane during times of turbulence and upon landing that freaks me out.  I didn't always have this issue as I used to travel all the time with tennis in my younger days.  But years ago on a flight to Phoenix and then again recently coming home from Toronto, the turbulence was so bad, that I had gone into shock after suffering from horrible panic attacks.  Let me tell you...if you have never had a panic attack, you don't want one.  All reason flies out the window and you are willing to do or say anything to escape the perceived source of your panic.  Only problem is, sometimes you can't identify it and other times you are literally not able to communicate.

Anyway, upon some self reflection this year, I decided to get hypnotised.  2 sessions for a grand total of about 300$.  It was a very interesting experience.  I learned alot about myself believe it or not.  But over all, I enjoyed the sessions.  But the real questions is "did they work"?

I am going to say yes and no.  Did they give me tools and hints/tricks to help me get through flying?  Yes.  Did they remove my bodies reaction to dropping 20 feet at a time when hitting an air pocket?  No.  I still feel like I want to barf and I still get tense and very nervous when the plane pitches or shakes at 30 thousand feet but with each flight, I am getting better.  I can relax a bit better and work through it mostly. I have a few coping skills that I think will help over time.

Although I don't need tranqs anymore, I will still be taking gravol.  If I can have the peace of mind that my tummy is not going to come up on me, that will keep me much calmer.  And that is the key.

And for clarification, hypnotism is not a trance like most people think.  Stop watching so much TV!  It is more like a zone.  And for those athletes out there reading this, you feel this zone all the time.  When you are in a race and the noise falls away and all you are focusing on is your space, your focus...that is a level of hypnotism.  When you are reading a good book and can't hear the noises around you, that too is a zone.  When I am on the tennis courts and I don't hear the crowd I just hear the ball and let my instincts take over...that is the zone.  There are many levels, it is just that most only experience the first few.  But being helped to reach the deeper levels is pretty cool.  I enjoyed my time there.  I would recommend it to anyone but I don't think you need 300$ to experience it.  Through exercises like yoga or some youtube videos, I am confident that you can reach these states.  However, if you want to use them for a specific fear or issue, then yes, go see a specialist.  They are trained in this where as I am not.

So a positive outcome overall.

Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Help a brother out.

Where are my friends who are brutally honest?  *looking around*  Cause they ain't anywhere close by.  So this goes out to the posers....when you see someone who is getting soft around the middle, please don't refrain from saying something.  And vice versa.  When someone is looking great out there in the big world, make their day, compliment them on their hard work.  We all need a bit more reality...even if it comes with a bit of sting every once in a while.

P.S.  Never eating again.....

Friday, May 16, 2014


What can I say about Vegas that hasn't been said already about a million times.  OH I know, it isn't Vegas that makes Vegas so special and unforgettable.  It is the people who share it with you that makes it so unforgettable.

My version of Vegas was so memorable because of the crew I was rolling with.  Both versions.  The large extended 12 of us and the more intimate smaller Kentucky Krew (+ 1)  ;).  I feel so lucky to have been able to hang out with 3 of the coolest guys I know.  Whether it was walking the strip, laying judgement on all the white trash tragedies around us or shooting semi automatic weapons, I never felt more connected to a bunch of guys.  It was a week I won't soon forget.  In fact, it has joined my all time fav vacation list.  And not because of where I was, but because of who I was with and what they made it for me.

Cirque de Soleil "O" was so cool.  Had my heart in my throat a few times with all that high diving.  I don't know how they do it.  I highly recommend it.

Shooting guns at the Range 702 was the most fun of our activities.  4 guys, 4 guns.  Need I really say more.  As the rookie of the crew who had never shot a gun before, I totally impressed myself.  Especially with the handgun.  All head shots!!  It was an amazing time.  And the reaction of Mike after shooting a shotgun was priceless and will go down in Vegas history.  You just MUST go if youre ever there.  Put away the fear and do it.  You won't regret it.

I have learnt that I have no talent for gambling.  None.  Every machine I touched seemed to suck the money right out of me.  And quickly.  I had a bit more fun and luck at the blackjack table but someone convinced me to play a few more hands (when I was already up) and low and behold that was that.  Cleaned out while he walked away with a handful of chips.  Not mentioning any names.

DAVID on the other hand (see above lol) had the magic touch and probably came home with about 100$.  Now I doubt he broke even but he did come out on top where the rest of us only had bruises to show for our gambling experience.  Oh well, it was fun.  That was the most important thing.  Playing blackjack in old vegas with a 21 year old dealer in a bikini was one of the highlights.  She cleaned us out in 6 hands.  LOL  It was so funny...well not so much.

And no matter what anyone tells you, even with blackjack, the house will win.  I don't know how it works but the house will win 70% of the deals.  Just a cold reality.  I can't imagine what poker is like as you are playing against people at the table as well.  Screw that.

Other than that, the food was over the top expensive, everything was smokey and smelled like vanilla cigarettes and the people were beyond comment.  Seriously.  From thongs and flip flops to oscar style dresses.  There is something for everyone.

But my piece of advice...go with people you care about or really close friends.  They will make the trip so much better.